The Secret to Unlocking A Man's Undying Devotion Towards A Woman.
You know that girlfriend of yours who has the perfect boyfriend?
The
guy with the gorgeous floppy hair, quirky smile, and big heart devoted entirely
to one person and one person only:
His
girlfriend.
You’re
so glad she found him, but honestly?
You
are so insanely jealous. It’s hard to stop watching them. The way he’s so
attentive to her needs. The way they seem to share thoughts without speaking.
The way he wraps his arms around her so tightly it’s like they’re one body.
Watching them makes you ache. Because the guy at your side doesn’t treat you
like that.
It’s
not that your guy isn’t wonderful. Of course he’s wonderful. It’s more…
How
he treats you. He treats you like someone he’s gotten used to.
You
know he doesn’t wake up in the morning pinching himself for being lucky enough
to snag someone like you.
So
you ask her—half-joking, half-hoping—if he has any brothers. She just laughs.
“Nah,
that’s not what you need.” She leans towards you and glances around to make
sure no one’s listening. “Want to hear a secret?”
You
nod eagerly.
She
whispers, “Our relationship was just like everyone else’s before. But then I
found out about this crazy secret. It’s from this relationship coach named
James Bauer. It’s, like, the key to unlocking men.”
You nod even more vigorously, but she’s stopped talking. You follow her gaze across the room. Her boyfriend is holding up a drink, asking her wordlessly if she wants one. She shakes her head, blows him a kiss, and turns back to you. “So, do you want to know what it is?”
“Yeah!”
you say. “If it will help me and my guy read each other’s minds, like you two
just did.”
“Okay,
then listen closely…”
head,
blows him a kiss, and turns back to you. “So, do you want to know what it is?”
“Yeah!”
you say. “If it will help me and my guy read each other’s minds, like you two
just did.”
“Okay,
then listen closely…”
Women across the world make one universal mistake with men.
It’s
not their fault. They’re just following common wisdom. Common wisdom says that
men only fall for exceptional women. (Exceptional bodies, mainly.)
If
you see a woman with a man trailing behind her like a puppy dog, common wisdom
says you can be sure she has something you don’t.
It’s
such an obvious explanation and yet…
It’s
dead wrong.
That
woman?
She’s
no more exceptional than you. (Whatever THAT means.)
But
what she does have is a very special understanding of men.
She
understands that what matters most is NOT what he sees when he looks at her…
But
how he sees himself reflected in her eyes.
The
truth is this:
Men fall for women because of how those women make them feel.
When
a man feels like a hero in a woman’s eyes, he swears his undying loyalty to
her.
He
can’t help it.
Most
women don’t have that effect on him.
When
he’s around most women, he feels like a dumb guy. Like
he’s always doing something wrong. Like he needs a nanny to look after him.
He
can count on one hand the number of women who look up to him. Who really, really
respect him.
And
he’s always going to have a place in his life for those women.
So,
how do you make a man feel like a hero?
It
sounds kind of silly.
Do
you have to engineer some kind of scenario where he has to save kids from a
burning house or a little old lady from getting hit by a car?
No.
It’s a lot simpler than that.
To make your man feel like a hero, there’s one easy thing you can do starting right now:
You can thank him warmly for every single thing he does for you.
Did
he offer to get you a drink?
Thank
him.
Did
he clear the dishes off the table?
Thank
him.
Did
he drive you to a meeting?
Thank
him.
He’s
a hero to you every day, even though you may not see it like that.
Has
your man “rescued you”—metaphorically speaking—any time in the last week?
Maybe
he dropped everything to help you. Maybe he was there when you needed a
sounding board. Maybe his advice helped you make a difficult decision.
We
tend to take those things for granted. We expect it. It numbs us to the actual
miracle of having someone to rely on.
But the more you appreciate him…
The more he appreciates YOU.
Now,
that’s not how most people think.
Most
women think they can earn a man’s appreciation by doing lots of things for him.
They’ve
got it backwards.
The
best way to earn a man’s appreciation is to appreciate everything he does for
you, no matter how little.
It
triggers his “Hero Instinct.”
(You can learn more about the Hero Instinct in James’ video here.)
For
now, just know that the key to unlocking his undying devotion is NOT in
everything you do for him…
But
in how you respond to everything he does for you.
Did
he just wrap his arms around you?
Give
a little wiggle of contentment.
Did
he agree to watch the program you wanted to see on TV?
Give
him an appreciative kiss.
Reward
the little things he does, and you’ll find your man striving more and more to
please you.
He’s
your hero.
And
that’s what heroes do.
But that’s just the beginning.
There’s
so much more you can do to trigger his hero instinct.
There
are phrases you can say, texts you can send, and little requests you can use to
trigger his hero instinct 100 times more powerfully than just saying thanks.
And
because no man can resist a woman who makes him feel like a hero, it’s worth
learning a few of these emotional trigger points.
Want
to take your relationship skills to the next level with men? Then learn more
about how you can master this powerful technique (from the man who invented it)
in this short video.
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